Where do I begin regarding the importance humans place on hair?
… It was written about in the Bible (How can we leave out Samson and Delilah when speaking on the power of hair…)
… Documentaries have been made on the topic.
… The Global Hair Care Products Industry Revenue is Forecast to Reach an Estimated $82.2 Billion in 2018 according to Yahoo Finance.
So what’s all the fuss about? Why do people place such great value on hair? Is it because our culture is obsessed with an unreachable idea of beauty and our hair is our crowning glory?
… That may be an over simplification, but I believe it to be true at its core.
I have to be honest. I’ve played into all of it – the subliminal and not so subliminal advertising. I’ve spent huge amounts of money on hair color, cuts, and products. In fact, I have so many products and accessories relating to my hair, they don’t even fit into one (huge) drawer anymore. Too much!
But I’m getting off topic, so I am going to circle back around to why I chopped my hair off…
I confess I have been “playing it safe” with my long hair for more than a decade now. The last time I cut my hair short, I was in my early teens and many of the boys in my school were not excited about the change in my hair length. They weren’t rude about it, but it was pretty obvious they preferred my long locks. So at that impressionable age, it was ingrained in me that I need to have long (blonde) hair in order to be though of as pretty.
And what girl doesn’t want to be thought of as pretty? We all do. Whether you are 14, 40, or 90.
But, I myself, bought into the lie. I actually believed I had to have long hair to be considered beautiful. And so consciously (and subconsciously) I spent hours prepping in hopes that I would take the form of a girl that every guy desires and who every girl desires to be (a totally irrational, arrogant, and impossible ideal). Its ridiculous looking back because I realize I was drowning myself in fear based thinking regarding my hair (… that is an entirely separate, but related, blog post topic). What would happen if I cut it again? Would I be considered less desirable? I cringed while getting a trim! – That’s ridiculous!
Every time I sat in the stylist’s chair, I played it safe, and that translated into other areas of my life, as well.
Sometimes its important to be safe, and sometimes its detrimental to your growth. And its important to know the difference.
And for me, it was detrimental.
This has been a year of tremendous personal growth and application for me. My learning curve has been enormous (if I say so myself) and when I realized my true beliefs surrounding the hair upon my head, I realized that I needed to make a change in order to continue to grow (kind of ironic I had to cut in order to grow, but sometimes change is counter intuitive).
Learning and applying are two different things. The learning part is fairly easy, its the applying part that really requires fortitude (and cajones).
So I faced my fear, mustered my courage, and I chopped my hair. And by doing so, I symbolically and literally liberated myself from the idea that I have to please other people with my appearance (especially men). My value is intrinsic, not extrinsic, and I’m hoping 2015 will be a year in which I dive deeper into that concept.
I’m not going to kid myself into thinking there will be a day when I don’t care at all about my appearance and what other people think about when they see me. And I’m okay with that as I think being well kept shows a certain amount self worth – but what I do want to think is that I’m tipping the scale of importance away from physical appearance and more toward the intangible things that make me who I am.
Like the fact that I love people. And I care so much about people (you), I started a blog to have a forum to share the things I am learning that I think would be of value to them (you).
That’s the type of thing I want to be recognized for… For loving people an extraordinary amount. – Not for the length of my hair or my worldly accomplishments.
Those things will fade in time. As Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Amen, sister. AMEN.
So, on that note, CHEERS to Personal Growth, Gutsy Decisions, & a Life of Character Building Experiences that Help Others.
I wish you LIGHT, LOVE, & PEACE, and I hope you had a VERY Merry Christmas,
P.S. For a great cut and color, ask for John Robert at The Dragonfly Salon in Atlanta, GA.