Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
So I ask: Who are you spending your time with?
Are they supportive? Are they encouraging? Is your relationship with them mutually beneficial?
Or are they snarky? Demeaning? Do they make fun of you? Are you able to share your heart/your truest self with them?
I’m going to be gut level honest with you. Following your dream and daring life not to let you do what you love takes serious guts, and anyone who is not supportive of you is going to suck your valuable time and energy. And that is time and energy you will never get back.
Some of our relationships will last our entire lives. These are to be cherished and cultivated.
Some relationships are just for a season in our lives. These relationships often come at the perfect time – when we are ripe and ready to learn a new lesson or when we are ripe and ready to teach a lesson that needs to be reinforced. And maybe there are many lessons to be learned/taught in this relationship and it lasts more than a season. Great. But if and when a point comes where the relationship is no longer serving both parties, it is time to let go. You can be very grateful for the time spent together and the learning that took place, but also be firm in the realization that not all relationships are meant to last a lifetime.
Some relationships are just simply destructive. You may know this person through work, or maybe you went to school together, or maybe they are a family member… These relationships can be incredibly difficult. Always be kind, but know that boundaries are available to you. I had a counselor once who said, “You do not have to invite crazy to the party.” That was an incredibly empowering concept to me. I don’t have to do anything I don’t want to do. And if someone is really destructive and impeding my growth and the pursual of my dreams, I do not have to interact with them on a regular basis. Again, always, always be kind, but also always, always, exercise good boundaries. (The book Essentialism by Greg McKeown is really good if you want to delve more into this subject.)
Our time is precious because it is limited. Choose your close community wisely. It really is up to you how much time you spend with people and what kind of people you choose to spend time with. You have the power to make these choices. YOU.
And remember quality over quantity. When you are daring life not to let you do what you love, you want to be surrounded by people who are doing the same. It will inspire and further all of your journeys.
You got this!
LIGHT, LOVE, & PEACE,