"The longest journey we take as human beings is th "The longest journey we take as human beings is the eighteen inches from our head to our heart." - Unknown
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If we look around its so easy to see the disconnection - from nature, from each other, from ourselves.
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We live in a society that is increasingly focused on "me, me, me," yet, when we take the journey from our head to our heart, the irony is, our heart is so often saying "you, you, you - how can I serve you?"  Meaning, how can I serve those around me?
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I had an incredible conversation with Dr. Keith Campbell on a book he wrote called "The New Science of Narcissism."  This man literally started the national conversation around narcissism years ago, and in our podcast interview (Ep. 64), we chat:
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+ The traits of narcissistic personality disorder
+ The ramifications of flippantly calling someone a narcissist
+ How social media can be dangerous when it comes to culture- wide narcissistic tendencies
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The beauty here is: we can turn this around.  We can actively take care of ourselves and still serve others.  We can choose to both love ourselves AND love the people around us to our fullest capacity.
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<3 What's your favorite way to show someone you love them?  
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I have several ways that I love, but my favorite recently has been with a thoughtful gift.  - To show and say "I see you and I love you and I appreciate you."
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I left L.A. yesterday. I was there for an import I left L.A. yesterday. 

I was there for an important meeting and I want to unravel several of the really cool things I’m discovering, and please, ask me your questions. We are on the self-discovery journey together. 

+ as of tomorrow, I will have meditated 100 days straight. It’s no accident that some of the biggest shifts in my life have happened in the last 100 days.

+ we do not have to heal and grow alone. I used to think it was a solo journey, it’s not. It’s a solo decision to walk in the direction of healing and growth but teachers present themselves and if we are wise, we accept their help.

+ growth doesn’t have to be incremental. We can take quantum leaps and achieve well beyond the obvious. This requires a dramatic mindset shift, but these quantum leaps are available to all of us. 

This healing, this growth - it’s the foundation of emotional freedom which translates into creating the life one dreams of. I’m watching it unfold before my eyes and simultaneously thinking “this is the truth I have been seeking. It’s been here all along.”

Easter is the day in which Jesus rose 🌹- we are invited to do the same. 

You can book a Sacred Space one-on-one call with me via the link in my bio. You don’t have to wait or walk alone. 

With so much love, 
Jaclyn
I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is I appreciate a curated feed and photo, but this is the real me.  It's raw.  It's sunset after a work day.  I'm taking a hike and releasing the to-list hangover that sometimes seeps into my evening hours.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Moments like these are my transition moments.  They are the moments that help me center - that bring be back to my aliveness.  I've been thinking about what makes me feel alive a lot lately and I've realized what it is: serving others.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And with that, I've decided, after looking at the impact my podcast, Self Discovery, is making to offer one-on-one coaching.  I don't have a secret methodology.  I don't have a 10 step program.  But what I do have is a lot of life experience.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My offerings are rooted in self-worth, because in my experience, every "obstacle" I have faced - in entrepreneurship, in relationships, in my health, in my bank account - has been clearly tied to feelings of self doubt, low self esteem, unworthiness, fear, and an attitude of "WTF am I doing with my life?!?!?!"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you are struggling, if you are ready to welcome in a new era, and if you are willing to let go of the bs self-limiting beliefs holding you back, then shoot me a text and let's get this conversation started: 480-531-6858.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yeah, that's really my number, and yeah, I'm really on the other end of the line.  You will have to agree to opt-in, but I promise I will be the person you are speaking to.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This world needs you in your you-est form - that's one of the many gorgeous reasons you are here.  And if you need help stepping into that kind of life-altering, soul singing, powerful self-worth, I am one text message away.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With So Much Love,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Jaclyn
I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, m I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, my 4.5 pound Yorkie is a pill on long walks.  She thinks she is the leader of the pack.  She “muscles” her way around and keeps her nose to the ground like a hound on a scent.  The problem is, her intensity, at times, makes her completely unaware of where she is heading.  And yesterday, my dog Tumnus, (who is about 4x the size of Pip) somehow got a few feet ahead of her and was lifting his leg and peeing on a big rock.  This is not unusual, but what was unusual was that Pippin in all her intensity did not see Tumnus peeing and walked STRAIGHT THROUGH the stream.  Across her whole left side was a line of fresh Tumnus proof of what had just happened.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This reminded me of how we are as humans.  We get so intense, so focused, that we forget to look up and around.  This looking up and around allows us to take stock of our lives.  I mentioned that I hired a healer.  She is an intuitive acupuncturist that can read energy.  She said to me, “Jaclyn, you must stop doing, doing, doing, and practice just being.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Just being.  I have been practicing it this past week and it has allowed me to take an aerial view of my life.  I realize that so many of the things that I worry about have very little importance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Being alive is important, and if we are caught up in the intensity of living, it’s really hard to feel alive.  In a world where shootings (Atlanta, Boulder) are common place, this concept of being is even more important.  Life is PRECIOUS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is my open prayer for the families of the victims lost in these shootings.  Join me if you feel led… I pray that these families feel enveloped by love and a deep knowing that they will one day be reunited with their precious loved ones.  And that in this time of grief, they would allow themselves the space to just be.  And like Johnnyswim sings “if it’s fragile and it shatters, let it matter, let it matter.”
The last two weeks have been transformative. Yes, The last two weeks have been transformative.  Yes, this is a @parkerclayintl post because I love their bags SO much, but this is also a post about the power of taking a breath.
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The last two weeks I haven't posted much.  Not because I was actively taking a break, but because I was totally and completely immersed in my life.
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I hired a healer (so much more on this), I hired a coach (so much more on this), my family came and visited from the midwest.
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And I've been falling in love with my life all over again.
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I read recently that if you want to ignite change in your life, then you have to run as fast as you can into the fire (before you can talk yourself out of it), because there is nothing like fear to bring your bs limiting beliefs to the surface.
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This is so true.  This is so, so true.
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So cheers to letting go of what holds us back, cheers to kick a$$ bags from @parkerclayintl that serve such an amazing purpose, and cheers to Monday even if it feels like Monday!
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The importance of following your intuition (tips f The importance of following your intuition (tips for tuning in below):

Have you ever had a feeling so strong that your body reacts physically?  Or an inkling about someone before you meet them?  Or a gentle nudge that you should show up somewhere for some unknown reason?

This is intuition.  It is my belief that it’s actually universal intelligence channeling through you sending you a message.

In our fast paced, over stimulating culture though, it can be really hard to tune out the noise and tune in to this inner voice - this gut feeling.

For me, that’s when I turn to:
💙yoga
💙meditation
💙journaling
💙long walks
💙carving out moments of complete silence with no distraction (I have to put the phone away)
💙allowing energy to move through me instead of stopping it and trying to figure out what it is and how it works

Tuning in and listening to your intuition is vital, but you know what requires even more courage?  Acting on it.  Doing what it is nudging you to do.

Examples of what intuition has clearly led me to:
💯winning an international singing competition
💯meeting my now husband
💯moving to the West
💯finding the podcast guest on today’s episode

And you know what @okoliving ’s founder’s intuition led her to?  Starting this unlikely but so timely and beautifully intentional company.  Lindsay let her intuition lead the way through doubt, obstacles, and naysayers into a space where she is leading the way in ethical, eco-friendly, and safe yoga products.

Listen to our inspired conversation (episode 61) now streaming everywhere.

👉🏼👉🏽👉🏿And then leave us a comment! Did you know that many traditional sticky yoga mats emit toxic gases? I had NO IDEA!  And what did you learn from this episode with Lindsay?
We have to own our distractions. This is VITAL if We have to own our distractions.  This is VITAL if we want to own our day. (Actions steps below)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do we open Instagram right after we wake up?  Do we flip on the TV as soon as we get home?  Do we get caught up in drama at the office?  Do we get sucked into family matters that have nothing to do with us?  Do we allow ourselves to be victims of clickbait when have an open hour to work on our dreams?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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According to Stoic philosophy, owning what we are giving our mental energy to is a vital component of having autonomy over our lives.  Or in other, more personalized, words: are you living your life or is your life living you?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⛵️ Easy action steps for plugging the distraction holes:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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1. plan out "you" time - for self care, for working on your dreams, for accomplishing what you need to, etc. throughout the week (put it in your calendar as a non-negotiable)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Here's the thing, and I'm gearing up to go DEEP on this subject: chronically allowing distraction into our lives is a self worth issue.  We are saying to the Almighty: My time is not valuable.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💎 truth check: YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE VALUABLE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We just have to start acting like it.  A great question to ask ourselves during the day is: would a person who values themselves spend time doing this?  If not, act accordingly.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋 What's one distraction, that if you decreased or eliminated it, would give you back super valuable time to work toward your dreams and desires?  Let's encourage each other in the comments below.  Chances are, if you are experiencing that distraction, someone else is too!
Do you take risks? And what really are risks? Is Do you take risks?

And what really are risks?  Is it jumping out of a plane?  Moving across the country?  Getting married?  Making that phone call?  DM-ing that person you admire to share the kind of value you or your product could offer them?  Making what feels like a vulnerable post on Instagram?

I know this much, my beautiful friends: progress, momentum, forward movement, success - they ALL require risk.

And @missamandasellers is sharing with us some of the risks she’s taken.  And boy oh boy have some of them paid off!  And some of them, she admits, haven’t.  However, she is still standing and growing and thriving and inspiring the rest of us to act on our own potential.

Risks, rejection, self worth, and self healing with Miss Amanda Sellers - episode 60 is up NOW!  Links in stories and in BIO.

✌🏼✌🏽✌🏿✌🏾What’s one risk you’ve taken that’s really paid off?  Let’s encourage one another!

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How do you know if you're stressed? Is this a dum How do you know if you're stressed?  Is this a dumb question?  I'm spilling some tea right here.  This is NOT a dumb question.  Recently, I've been SUPER focused on taking back the reigns of my life.  The beauty of my Hashimoto's diagnosis last August is that it's forced me to make some big changes because my health LITERALLY depends on it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I started with getting on the right medication dosage, then focused on dietary changes, and then stress management.  I probably should've STARTED with stress management.  Here's why:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I was so stressed all the time that I didn't know what not being stressed felt like.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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That's why last week I shared a post on lowering cortisol because stress causes cortisol spikes.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So here's the tea and these things are KEY if you want to lower your stress/take your life back:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 put your phone away (I do no phone after 7PM, and I also keep my phone in my purse for the majority of the work day). The phone is constant stimulation and constant cortisol spikes for me.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 prioritizing your dreams.  Creating space and taking action on what I want to accomplish FIRST rather then tending to everyone and their needs and THEN doing what I need to do.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 take f-ing care of yourself.  Sleep.  Rest.  Time for books and just f-ing thinking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 boundaries... with literally everyone.  What do I need today to be healthy and move my dreams forward? ... if you don't fit into that, I love you, but I'm worthy of my focus and attention.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💙 morning meditation⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For years, I had this list flipped upside down.  I was my priority only after I had made everyone else my priority.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋Success/progress/healing requires boundaries and stress management. Your thoughts?🦋
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Entrepreneurship, Music, Self Help, This is Important, Wellness · December 12, 2018

A Message for You and Those Who Doubt You

“Have you had any experience with doubt?  Like people doubting your business could ever be successful?”

That was the vulnerably put, honest-to-the core question that was on my message board Monday.  I wanted to wrap this person in my arms and protect them from the critical comments they went on to tell me someone close to them said.

Several feelings flooded into my mind at once.  

One. Yes, I do deeply know what that feels like.  I’ve experienced so much doubt and criticism from people (family, friends, strangers, – you name it) that I don’t even know where to begin.  Just last week, my nuclear family member called this very blog you are reading “psycho babble” and called me “delusional” for the way that I think.  Those were the exact words.  I’m not paraphrasing.  And, unfortunately, another family member, in the not-so-distant past, told me my first EP “sucked.”  Again, exact words.  I’m not paraphrasing.

Two. How the fu$k am I supposed to answer this if I haven’t fully figured it out myself?


Three. I’m so happy that this person feels safe to ask me this question because I know it’s not an easy one to serve up.  I, myself, have been mortified of asking this question.

Those feelings aside, what I’ve been mulling over since Monday morning is this… if the opposite of fear is love, and the opposite of criticism is encouragement, then what is the opposite of doubt?  – Self doubt specifically, because the key here isn’t to figure out a way to stop people from saying what they are going to say… that’s impossible.  The key is figuring out how to prevent their doubt from becoming your own.

So is the opposite of self doubt, self confidence?  And if so, how do we cultivate that?  Where does it come from? In my experience, self confidence isn’t something we just wake up with one magical morning… No, from my understanding, it’s based on a lifetime of considering how we are seen in other people’s eyes.

And BAM, there it is: so often our self confidence is based on how we think we’re seen by others.  Damn, that’s bad.  But I do it, too.  Think about it: self confidence is an inside job – it’s something only you can carry – no one else can carry it for you.  Yet, so many of us, myself included, allow the outer world to dictate the level of our inner confidence.  This is asinine!

So what do we do about it?  How do we cultivate and consistently carry our own self confidence – or at least enough of it to prevent the doubters doubt from becoming our own?

I don’t have all the answers, and I’m not going to pretend that I do.  However, what I do have is experience in this area, and I’m going to share with you what has helped me in case it may be of value to you.

  1.  Do not react.  Doubters usually want a reaction.  If you refuse to swing when they throw you the ball, then you aren’t participating in their game.  If you choose to swing, you are insinuating that their doubt matters to you.  In my experience, when doubters feel like their words matter to you, they keep speaking.
  2. Do not give your power away.  Ask yourself what kind of weight you want to place on their opinion.  What I mean is: Are they reliable?  Do they have integrity?  Do they really know you?  Like reeeeally know you beyond the surface?  Are they living a life you think you would enjoy living?  Do they treat others in a way you aspire to?  Do they seem happy and fulfilled in their own lives?  Do you think they are coming from a place that has your best interest at heart?  If not, then the weight you place on whatever they say to you can effectively be a big fat ZERO.  What Brené Brown says, and I am paraphrasing this, is “if you aren’t in the arena getting bloodied and daring greatly with me, then who are you to criticize or have any opinion at all on what I’m doing?”
  3. Your opinion matters most.  So often, we minimize the incredible and brave things we do and maximize the opinions of others.  This is backward.  Cry your hot tears, get angry if you need to, run a marathon, write in red in all caps in your journal and burn it – do whatever you need to do after doubt or hate or criticism or negativity has been sent your way.  Don’t hold it in.  Don’t run from it.  But don’t you dare allow it to minimize the value of what you bring to the table.  Let me ask you this… When you are 90 and looking back over your life, do you think your 90 year old self will want to say “oh yes, I’m glad I allowed that person’s doubt to completely thwart my efforts and stop me in my tracks?”  Or do you think your 90 year old self will want to say “dang, I battled on even when the odds were against me and I had no visible support”…?  Ladies and Gents, don’t wait for the world to get behind you.  Not everyone will love what you are doing.  Some will even adamantly let you know they disapprove.  Let’s take a lesson from Jesus on this.  He says “love your neighbor as yourself.”  That’s one of the most profound and beautiful statements in the world, yet people still take issue with it.  There are people who aren’t going to like you.  There are people who may even hate you.  But here’ the thing: you aren’t other people, so do you want to base your life’s decisions on someone who will never walk in your shoes, or do you want to live the life you feel you were meant to live in your own f-ing shoes?  Your opinion on who you are matters most.  Who’s? YOURS.

These three things aren’t necessarily a cure all, but they have helped me.  A lot.  And you know what else has helped me?  Let’s take it back to Jesus’ words and go a step further… loving my neighbor as myself, yes, but actually. actively. loving. myself.  Part of the break down in society is that people are in serious pain.  They have no idea what self love looks or feels like or how it could be a vessel for making their lives better.  Hurting people, hurt people.  They hurt others because they are in so much pain and in that moment they find temporary relief knowing that others are in pain with them.  How are we supposed to love a neighbor like we would ourselves if we have no idea how to love ourselves? 

Because, maybe the opposite of self doubt isn’t self confidence, since self confidence seems to be situational and unreliable and based so often on the opinions of others, maybe the opposite of self doubt is self love.

Let’s cultivate that, dear one.  As I’m typing this, I’m realizing that chasing self confidence is a rabbit whole because I think the source of true self confidence comes from self love.  I seriously believe that if you focus on how to love yourself better and more consistently, then the self confidence will naturally follow.  Their words will sting less, their opinions will matter less, and your resolve will be a firm line in the sand that says “say what you will, but you will not stop me.”

Lastly, I have a message for those slinging doubt and criticism and negativity our way:

“Dear Doubter,

Do you know what it feels like to be brave?  To pour yourself into something and then put it out into the world in all its human-ness?  Do you know what it feels like to feel that vulnerable – to start something not knowing how it will turn out but deciding to do it anyway?  Do you know what it feels like to march on despite criticism?  Do you know what it sounds like to carry on even when those closest to you doubt that you are capable?

Your words, your thoughts, your arrogance in thinking you know a path better for me than I do, may momentarily cut me like a dagger to my heart, but you will not deter me.  I cannot so easily be thrown off track.  I would gently encourage you, doubter, to take the energy of that doubt you are hurling at me, and direct it inward.  What is it that I am doing that is affecting you so much?  Am I reminding you that there is a big world out there and that it really is ours to choose what we make of it?  Is my brave decision making you feel bad because you aren’t willing to make a brave decision of your own?  

Despite the fact that you are hurting me, I want to remind you that you, too, can make brave decisions.  The only thing stopping you is fear.  Everything else is figure-out-able.

So the next time you want to throw daggers at my dream, I would challenge you to think about what that might feel like if someone threw daggers at your own.  I would challenge you to consider what it would feel like to so bravely put a work out into the world only to have it met by the seething doubt of someone who hasn’t made brave decisions of their own.  I’m all for constructive criticism from those I respect, but before you assume you are in that esteemed category of people I accept advice from, I want you to ask yourself these questions: what is your intent in telling me this?  Is it to make my work better?  To elevate my ideas?  To encourage me to be bigger and better and braver?  Or, is it to cut me down so you don’t feel quite as small?

If it’s the latter, then I kindly ask you to hold your words.  They will be wasted on me and I will choose not to give them any weight.  In fact, you will be squandering your own breath because I will carry on bravely like the warrior I am with or without you.

In Love,

JACLYN“

(feel free to copy, paste, sign and send this letter via snail mail, email, text, social media, smoke signals, etc. to whomever needs to see it… rinse and repeat as needed)

May we love ourselves enough to be truly capable of loving our neighbors.

May we never let their doubt become our own.

May we refuse to treat others, even our doubters, in the ways our doubters have treated us.

And may we march forward, igniting this flame of bravery in others. 

LIGHT, LOVE, & PEACE,

J A C L Y N   S T E E L E

Photo provided by the incredibly talented Adrienne Mary, who happens to also be my neighbor. 🙂

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  1. Kathleen Capella says

    December 14, 2018 at 6:08 am

    Thanks for your bravery for posting such honest and real experience.

    Reply
    • jsteele says

      December 18, 2018 at 3:28 pm

      I love you, Kathleen. I want so deeply to be of service to others.

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"The longest journey we take as human beings is th "The longest journey we take as human beings is the eighteen inches from our head to our heart." - Unknown
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If we look around its so easy to see the disconnection - from nature, from each other, from ourselves.
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We live in a society that is increasingly focused on "me, me, me," yet, when we take the journey from our head to our heart, the irony is, our heart is so often saying "you, you, you - how can I serve you?"  Meaning, how can I serve those around me?
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I had an incredible conversation with Dr. Keith Campbell on a book he wrote called "The New Science of Narcissism."  This man literally started the national conversation around narcissism years ago, and in our podcast interview (Ep. 64), we chat:
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+ The traits of narcissistic personality disorder
+ The ramifications of flippantly calling someone a narcissist
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The beauty here is: we can turn this around.  We can actively take care of ourselves and still serve others.  We can choose to both love ourselves AND love the people around us to our fullest capacity.
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I have several ways that I love, but my favorite recently has been with a thoughtful gift.  - To show and say "I see you and I love you and I appreciate you."
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I was there for an important meeting and I want to unravel several of the really cool things I’m discovering, and please, ask me your questions. We are on the self-discovery journey together. 

+ as of tomorrow, I will have meditated 100 days straight. It’s no accident that some of the biggest shifts in my life have happened in the last 100 days.

+ we do not have to heal and grow alone. I used to think it was a solo journey, it’s not. It’s a solo decision to walk in the direction of healing and growth but teachers present themselves and if we are wise, we accept their help.

+ growth doesn’t have to be incremental. We can take quantum leaps and achieve well beyond the obvious. This requires a dramatic mindset shift, but these quantum leaps are available to all of us. 

This healing, this growth - it’s the foundation of emotional freedom which translates into creating the life one dreams of. I’m watching it unfold before my eyes and simultaneously thinking “this is the truth I have been seeking. It’s been here all along.”

Easter is the day in which Jesus rose 🌹- we are invited to do the same. 

You can book a Sacred Space one-on-one call with me via the link in my bio. You don’t have to wait or walk alone. 

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And with that, I've decided, after looking at the impact my podcast, Self Discovery, is making to offer one-on-one coaching.  I don't have a secret methodology.  I don't have a 10 step program.  But what I do have is a lot of life experience.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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My offerings are rooted in self-worth, because in my experience, every "obstacle" I have faced - in entrepreneurship, in relationships, in my health, in my bank account - has been clearly tied to feelings of self doubt, low self esteem, unworthiness, fear, and an attitude of "WTF am I doing with my life?!?!?!"⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you are struggling, if you are ready to welcome in a new era, and if you are willing to let go of the bs self-limiting beliefs holding you back, then shoot me a text and let's get this conversation started: 480-531-6858.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yeah, that's really my number, and yeah, I'm really on the other end of the line.  You will have to agree to opt-in, but I promise I will be the person you are speaking to.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This world needs you in your you-est form - that's one of the many gorgeous reasons you are here.  And if you need help stepping into that kind of life-altering, soul singing, powerful self-worth, I am one text message away.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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With So Much Love,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Jaclyn
I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, m I took my dogs for a hike yesterday, and Pippin, my 4.5 pound Yorkie is a pill on long walks.  She thinks she is the leader of the pack.  She “muscles” her way around and keeps her nose to the ground like a hound on a scent.  The problem is, her intensity, at times, makes her completely unaware of where she is heading.  And yesterday, my dog Tumnus, (who is about 4x the size of Pip) somehow got a few feet ahead of her and was lifting his leg and peeing on a big rock.  This is not unusual, but what was unusual was that Pippin in all her intensity did not see Tumnus peeing and walked STRAIGHT THROUGH the stream.  Across her whole left side was a line of fresh Tumnus proof of what had just happened.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This reminded me of how we are as humans.  We get so intense, so focused, that we forget to look up and around.  This looking up and around allows us to take stock of our lives.  I mentioned that I hired a healer.  She is an intuitive acupuncturist that can read energy.  She said to me, “Jaclyn, you must stop doing, doing, doing, and practice just being.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Just being.  I have been practicing it this past week and it has allowed me to take an aerial view of my life.  I realize that so many of the things that I worry about have very little importance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Being alive is important, and if we are caught up in the intensity of living, it’s really hard to feel alive.  In a world where shootings (Atlanta, Boulder) are common place, this concept of being is even more important.  Life is PRECIOUS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is my open prayer for the families of the victims lost in these shootings.  Join me if you feel led… I pray that these families feel enveloped by love and a deep knowing that they will one day be reunited with their precious loved ones.  And that in this time of grief, they would allow themselves the space to just be.  And like Johnnyswim sings “if it’s fragile and it shatters, let it matter, let it matter.”
The last two weeks have been transformative. Yes, The last two weeks have been transformative.  Yes, this is a @parkerclayintl post because I love their bags SO much, but this is also a post about the power of taking a breath.
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The last two weeks I haven't posted much.  Not because I was actively taking a break, but because I was totally and completely immersed in my life.
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I hired a healer (so much more on this), I hired a coach (so much more on this), my family came and visited from the midwest.
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And I've been falling in love with my life all over again.
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I read recently that if you want to ignite change in your life, then you have to run as fast as you can into the fire (before you can talk yourself out of it), because there is nothing like fear to bring your bs limiting beliefs to the surface.
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This is so true.  This is so, so true.
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So cheers to letting go of what holds us back, cheers to kick a$$ bags from @parkerclayintl that serve such an amazing purpose, and cheers to Monday even if it feels like Monday!
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The importance of following your intuition (tips f The importance of following your intuition (tips for tuning in below):

Have you ever had a feeling so strong that your body reacts physically?  Or an inkling about someone before you meet them?  Or a gentle nudge that you should show up somewhere for some unknown reason?

This is intuition.  It is my belief that it’s actually universal intelligence channeling through you sending you a message.

In our fast paced, over stimulating culture though, it can be really hard to tune out the noise and tune in to this inner voice - this gut feeling.

For me, that’s when I turn to:
💙yoga
💙meditation
💙journaling
💙long walks
💙carving out moments of complete silence with no distraction (I have to put the phone away)
💙allowing energy to move through me instead of stopping it and trying to figure out what it is and how it works

Tuning in and listening to your intuition is vital, but you know what requires even more courage?  Acting on it.  Doing what it is nudging you to do.

Examples of what intuition has clearly led me to:
💯winning an international singing competition
💯meeting my now husband
💯moving to the West
💯finding the podcast guest on today’s episode

And you know what @okoliving ’s founder’s intuition led her to?  Starting this unlikely but so timely and beautifully intentional company.  Lindsay let her intuition lead the way through doubt, obstacles, and naysayers into a space where she is leading the way in ethical, eco-friendly, and safe yoga products.

Listen to our inspired conversation (episode 61) now streaming everywhere.

👉🏼👉🏽👉🏿And then leave us a comment! Did you know that many traditional sticky yoga mats emit toxic gases? I had NO IDEA!  And what did you learn from this episode with Lindsay?
We have to own our distractions. This is VITAL if We have to own our distractions.  This is VITAL if we want to own our day. (Actions steps below)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do we open Instagram right after we wake up?  Do we flip on the TV as soon as we get home?  Do we get caught up in drama at the office?  Do we get sucked into family matters that have nothing to do with us?  Do we allow ourselves to be victims of clickbait when have an open hour to work on our dreams?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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⛵️ Easy action steps for plugging the distraction holes:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💎 truth check: YOUR TIME IS VALUABLE BECAUSE YOU ARE VALUABLE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋 What's one distraction, that if you decreased or eliminated it, would give you back super valuable time to work toward your dreams and desires?  Let's encourage each other in the comments below.  Chances are, if you are experiencing that distraction, someone else is too!
Do you take risks? And what really are risks? Is Do you take risks?

And what really are risks?  Is it jumping out of a plane?  Moving across the country?  Getting married?  Making that phone call?  DM-ing that person you admire to share the kind of value you or your product could offer them?  Making what feels like a vulnerable post on Instagram?

I know this much, my beautiful friends: progress, momentum, forward movement, success - they ALL require risk.

And @missamandasellers is sharing with us some of the risks she’s taken.  And boy oh boy have some of them paid off!  And some of them, she admits, haven’t.  However, she is still standing and growing and thriving and inspiring the rest of us to act on our own potential.

Risks, rejection, self worth, and self healing with Miss Amanda Sellers - episode 60 is up NOW!  Links in stories and in BIO.

✌🏼✌🏽✌🏿✌🏾What’s one risk you’ve taken that’s really paid off?  Let’s encourage one another!

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How do you know if you're stressed? Is this a dum How do you know if you're stressed?  Is this a dumb question?  I'm spilling some tea right here.  This is NOT a dumb question.  Recently, I've been SUPER focused on taking back the reigns of my life.  The beauty of my Hashimoto's diagnosis last August is that it's forced me to make some big changes because my health LITERALLY depends on it.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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💙 take f-ing care of yourself.  Sleep.  Rest.  Time for books and just f-ing thinking.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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🦋Success/progress/healing requires boundaries and stress management. Your thoughts?🦋
Want a super quick tip for getting over the obstac Want a super quick tip for getting over the obstacles you face every day?

Be the super hero of your own life.

I got this idea from Andrée Werner, co-founder of Ryze Superfoods, Harvard AND Julliard grad, and… my latest podcast guest.  This brilliant woman and her business partner, Rashad, launched their signature mushroom superfood coffee (which you have heard me mention repeatedly because I love it) in the midst of a pandemic and they are KILLING IT.

As with all entrepreneurial adventures, this ish is hard, but Andrée and Rashad approach obstacles armed with the best question ever: what would a super hero do right now?

And the answer?  It’s ALWAYS “figure it out.”

And really, isn’t that what life is all about?  Being resourceful and resilient and responsible for our own destinies?

I love this lady and her story and this company that she helped create called @ryzesuperfoods.  This episode is an interesting listen if you’re into health and entrepreneurship.  AND if you want to try their INCREDIBLE superfood-packed mushroom coffee, visit the link in their bio and use code: JACLYN at checkout for 15% off your order.

Have you guys tried mushroom coffee yet?  I’m obsessed.  My husband is on it.  My mom is on it.  Several of my friends are on board.  I think it’s the wave of the less caffeinated, more calm future.

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